Cheesy title, but let me explain.
There is something so important about having another person with you who absolutely knows who you are. They can love you and hold you accountable at the same time. Make sure you’re ok, take your meds on time and cares about your happiness.
I’ve realized since moving in with my boyfriend how much better, all around, I am. There is nothing more relaxing to me than just lying around and talking about everything with someone who understands you. Two years together and we still can talk all night, that’s magic. It wasn’t long ago that the only thing that could relax me enough was being alone, even when I was in other relationships. Now I hate the thought of not having that.
It’s important to have someone like that around, and to also be reciprocating the love and accountability. Someone who doesn’t look at you and see just your illness, but sees all of your crazy and awesomeness. If he can handle my crazy, I can handle his.
Having a support system has been the most important change in my life. I have parents and a brother who love me and a sister who is my best friend. But, it’s different when an outsider takes on the role of supporter and is there 24/7. It brings out the best (and sometimes the worst) in a person. Mentally, I’ve never been happier.
If I’m having a terrible day, I know I can count on him and vice versa. He knows what I need and when I need it. No matter how bad it gets, we can still find happiness. Family is another matter, the dynamic can cause more strain and stress if something bad happens, or if they don’t agree with you things can remain tense. Family = Stress. (Sorry mom and dad, you stress me out a bit.) Now, I have someone outside who I can turn to. A person who knows where I stand, and respects me for it.
And also knows that I will tear up if I even see the cover of Marley & Me, still can’t watch that movie. I love dogs too much. Don’t even get me started on the latest scandal of A Dog’s Purpose, fuck those people. I get worked up if I see a picture of my first dog Spicy.
Ok, I’m done with the depressing dog stuff, but I can’t help it sometimes. And he understands that.
The point I am getting to is my overall health and happiness has improved because just having someone around like that is a powerful thing. And damn it, I never saw it coming, and I don’t have a choice. The universe was just like “Here, this is your person.” No consultation, nada. It just happened. I remember the day I was thinking about this and said “Fuck, when did this happen?” But you know what, I ain’t mad about it. Looking back on it, I can’t think of a single moment where I had doubt. That has never happened before.
Find someone who can put up with your crazy, it’s worth it.